6 Signs You Are In A Wrong And Toxic Relationship

Most times when we are in a relationship, we see all the signs of an inevitable break up but we just ignore them and carry on blindly.

Here are six signs to show you’re in the wrong relationship.

1. You’re doing everything to keep the relationship going alone.

It’s normal to feel alone in your relationship. It isn’t normal to actually be alone in your relationship. If you’re feeling, thinking and acting like you’re single, more often than not, you should be. If your significant other is becoming more distant, and has checked out of the relationship regardless of your pleas for closeness, then you’re just about at the end of your rope. Most likely they are looking elsewhere for the comfort that you should be giving them, but have not yet pulled the plug on your union.

2. Your partner doesn’t respect you.

Respect should be a given in any relationship, but in some cases it isn’t. If you have to make excuses for how your mate talks to you, treats you in front of others, or interacts with other people, then it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. Someone who truly loves you will not treat you like a doormat. You know when someone respects you. And when that’s gone, so is the relationship.

3. You fight more 

Every couple fights, but is this your love language? If you’re with someone who you cannot even properly communicate with, chances are you’re in a toxic relationship. I’m not talking about the normal bickering that occurs between two people. I’m talking about words that will never be forgotten, spit from tongues pricklier than freshly sharpened pencils. If just about ever other word that comes out of your mouths is meant to tear each other down, you shouldn’t be together. Your relationship should be your source of peace, not an audition for Snapped.

4. You avoid each other.

Toxic relationships have one thing in common: they always contain the element of avoidance. At the bare minimum, you should be able to be around your mate. Those in fulfilling, healthy relationships look forward to spending quality time with their significant other. Finding it difficult to be in the presence of your partner is a sure sign of trouble in paradise.

5. You don’t feel comfortable being yourself.

If you live long enough, you’ll realize that you have to fight pretty damn hard to remain the same. The one who you’re meant to be with will love you for who you are, flaws and all. They’ll provide a welcoming space for you to be you, because they’ll recognize the importance of being genuine for the sake of your relationship. If you feel like you have to hold back on key traits of your personality, you might be in trouble.

6. You just don’t care anymore.

When you reach the point of not giving a damn, it’s simply time to go, because you have to care in order to fix things. There must be a minimum of damn given in order to get out of the dark places that your relationship will inevitable pass through. Not caring is a sign that you are no longer invested in not just the relationship, but also your partner.

Tips gotten from Shantell E. Jamison, ebony.com